04 Apr His Wisdom Is EVERYTHING
“Then Manoah prayed to the Lord: ‘Pardon your servant, Lord. I beg you to let the man of God you sent to us to come again to teach us how to bring up the boy who is to be born.’”
Judges 13:8 NIV
I was very young when I married and was in the process of pre-planning for pregnancy when I found out I was actually pregnant with my daughter less than a year later. Of course, I had it all calculated. I was going to take the prenatal vitamins at least 6 months before our agreed date to “try” for a baby and hope for a 1st pregnancy by the time we celebrated 2 years of marriage. That plan went down the drain quickly. By the time we celebrated our 1 year anniversary, I was already 3 months pregnant. I took the test on a Saturday morning. Positive. That moment changed my prayer life. I began to pray for wisdom as a parent-to-be like never before. I was nervous. Babysitting children for many years and working within the school district was great and I was comfortable around kids. But, being a parent was my concern. I didn’t grow up in a single house with a white picket fence surrounded by two loving parents. I grew up understanding that those men outside my window late at night were not just exchanging gifts and having wholesome chats; they were exchanging other things, illegal things. I grew up learning the pain of abuse and poverty. My clothes did not come from the mall, they came from Salvation Army, especially when there was that “FILL A BAG OF CLOTHES FOR $5” sale. My mother did her darndest to make sure we had something to eat, shelter and clothes. It wasn’t top quality, but it worked.
I knew that my childhood did not give me the necessary experience to learn what a healthy marriage was or to see how two healthy-minded parents worked together. And this scared me. So, I began to pray hard. Every. Single. Day. And like Manoah (Samson’s father), God inclined His ear to me. He began to pour out His Fatherly wisdom into our home. And while our home was not perfect, His perfect wisdom began to dominate all things parenting. This was an area of my life that I gave to God freely and openly. And as a result, He took over and that peace of His completely overwhelmed me. It is amazing how scary a situation can be. It is even more amazing the peace one can experience as a result of opening the door completely to God.
To me, Manoah came to God in a humbled state, convinced that he needed God’s wisdom like never before in order to enter that new season in his life of parenthood. And like Manoah, I’ve continued to ask God for wisdom with each new stage my children enter. They’re not close to their teens just yet, but I’m pretty sure I’ll be fasting daily by then! The point is, God’s wisdom is such a necessary component in raising our children in His ways. He is more than able. He is our wise God.
Here’s an inside scoop to some of the things we’ve incorporated in our home as a result of God’s wisdom in our parenting:
- We pray with each child at bedtime
- We incorporate a family Bible devotion at least once a week (click on the link for a great resource on fun family devotions)
- We begin to read the Word to them while they’re still babies
- We allow them to see our personal prayer/devotional times (Be the example)
We are not perfect parents. No one is, really. But where our weaknesses thrive, God’s mercy and grace reigns. Ask Him for wisdom. He will not disappoint.
Every family has its different dynamics, I would love to hear from you on what you’ve incorporated in your home as a result of God’s infinite wisdom!