03 Oct Learning From My Husband
I don’t know if my “mom brain” is getting worse, it’s my age or it was just an off couple of weeks for me, but I had a few moments there where I was just not getting it. I had made an appointment late in the day for a specific service for my car. When I arrived, I realized I had made an appointment for the wrong service and that department had already closed for the day. I was so frustrated. It had been a long day for me, and this car service was something I had already put off for too long. My husband and children were waiting in the car when I had returned to them. Now, if this had happened to my husband, I would have been annoyed at his mistake. My husband’s response? “Don’t worry about that. You don’t need to get frustrated. Let’s go and eat dinner.” The perfectionist in me was still not happy with my error. But, I let it go for the time being, made another appointment and went about through the rest of my day.
On the day of my rescheduled appointment, I had reminded Jason that he needed to be home from work at a certain time for us to go and get that car service done. He arrived home when he needed to and just as I got into the car, I knew something was off. I had not received the automatic reminder that is usually sent on the day of the appointment. I looked at my phone and realized that the appointment date was actually for the following week – the week we would be on vacation and would not be around for this service. And my husband’s response? “You’re starting to make ‘Jason’ mistakes. Ok, well let’s get back inside. At least we don’t have to go out, tonight.” While I wanted to kick myself, he was so calm and understanding. Once again, I had to make another appointment, make sure I had the right department AND an available date for us to get this service done, once and for all.
Through this experience, I realize that I can learn a lot from none other than my own spouse. Many times, it is easy to berate our partners and hold this arrogant mindset that we are the “better half”. In reality, we should be able to learn and grow from each other. There is nothing wrong with this. As a female, I’ve seen so many relationships where the female is the one in control and the male is the dumber counterpart. You know, like the show, “Everybody Loves Raymond”. Maybe I’m giving away my age here with that old show. Haha! But, I think that in the midst of all these feminist viewpoints surrounding our society lately, we are losing out on the amazing characteristics and qualities of our male figures.
1 Corinthians 16:14 says, “Do everything in love” (NIV). Paul had written this letter to the church in Corinth and had given them a great number of wise nuggets. And while this letter was written so many years ago, it does not negate the fact that this verse is something that should continue on in this day and age. My husband demonstrates this verse to me, daily – from leaving the house to pick up my favorite ice cream on an exhausting evening, to using sweet words when I make mistakes with car service appointments.
Who is the “better half” in my marriage? I don’t think it matters. What matters is that each of our strengths is combined to make us better people, and we lean on each other to supplement for our weaknesses. It’s called teamwork. And as each day passes, I’m more and more grateful for my teammate.