17 Apr Left Out
“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.”
I Corinthians 10:31
At the beginning of my gluten free journey, it was difficult to attend an event or party, knowing that the selections for safe foods was sparse. I remember attending a child’s birthday party a few weeks after going gluten free. There were finger foods and dessert for guests. At that time, I’m not sure I believed in cross contamination (when safe foods are “glutenized” due to contact with foods containing gluten). I was pretty naive when it came to all things involving food allergies. At this party, there was a platter with crackers and cheese. I figured I would be fine if I only ate the cheese. I ate a few. That night, my body paid for my ignorance. That was my first memorable experience of cross contamination.
I absolutely LOVED food. I loved trying different cuisines and tasting new foods for the first time. To understand that I could not do this anymore was frustrating. Going to a friend’s for dinner or to a social event changed my views. I no longer thought of having fun with friends and stuffing our faces with delicious food. My thoughts turned to worry that I may go hungry if I did not eat at home first, or if I did eat, I may get sick from cross contamination. What should have been fun, turned into apprehension.
This feeling became more dominant when my son tested positive for multiple food allergies. I no longer cared about my allergy. I became more anxious for my little one. Toddlerhood is already a challenging stage. Add to that mix a number of food allergies and the result could have detrimental consequences. I did not know how to balance this all out. Was I supposed to pack something for us all the time? Should I inform the hosts of our allergies and inconvenience them? This was an uncomfortable position to be in.
With all of life lessons, we learn how to adjust and adapt. There are times when there is only one option for me to have at a social event. I’m ok with this now. Shifting my perspective, I allow myself to be grateful instead of frustrated. With time, this has become easier. For my toddler, I tend to feed him before we go out, especially if I’m unsure safe options will be available for him. I also bring him enough snacks to have at the venue. Recently, we attended a family member’s birthday. Because I knew there would be cake and my son is too young to understand why he cannot have certain foods, I brought a safe cupcake for him to have. When everyone else ate their cake, my son was eating his cupcake. Win win. Well…I couldn’t have cake. But, this is one area where I’ve learned to put my “big girl” pants on and relax. I’m an adult. I can handle it. And the hubby tends to spoil me with my own GF treat afterwards.
Speaking of GF treats, it’s definitely a hit or a miss when it comes to which GF desserts and goodies are worthy of a second bite. I have to mention one of my all-time favorite GF cakes on here. And I SO hope you are able to come by one of these and try it for yourself! Inspired by Happiness makes a few three-layered cakes that are so amazing! Check them out if you can. My favorite is definitely Dreamin’ of Chocolate Dark & White Chocolate Layer cake. When we first tried this cake, my husband could not even tell it was gluten free. Sweet victory!!!