New Places, New Faces

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New Places, New Faces

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“Since you are my rock and my fortress, for the sake of your name lead and guide me.”

Psalm 31:3 NIV

 

Two weeks before our wedding, Jason and I held the keys to our very own house. We were young homeowners, ready to tackle it all on. It was a very exciting time. Little did we know, 8 years would pass before we had to say “Goodbye” to the only home we knew and move over 1,000 miles away. I’ll never forget the last day I spent in that house. I had finished cleaning up the kitchen, went into my car and refused to look back. I didn’t dare re-enter. I didn’t think I could keep my emotions in check. As I type these words, the tears I held in that day, almost 2 years ago, escape me. So many memories were created in that house…

The day I entered my new home, I walked into the living and dining areas already set up and situated. My husband had arrived a few hours before and wanted to make this new place feel a bit more like “home” for when I arrived. You see, that was the first time I laid eyes on our new home. Jason had been the one who flew down to see the place and sign the papers. Except for the pictures seen online, I had no idea what awaited me.

After that exhausting drive and move, I just wanted to eat and go to bed. I’ll never forget the next morning. I willed myself to keep my eyes closed. I kept picturing my old bedroom and its layout. I imagined I was back “home”, about to open my eyes and get the day rolling. But, I knew once I opened my eyes, reality would set in. It did. And so did the tears.

My idea of the next 30 years of my life had been changed drastically when God prompted us to move away. It’s easy to follow His leading when it feels good and you’re on board with the decision. But, it is difficult to say, “Yes” when the path He wants you to take is the very one you would rather not. This move was not a “dream come true”. It was bittersweet, with more of the bitter than the sweet. I moved out of obedience and nothing more. I tried to get out of it and have my way, but I also knew and had to relent to His perfect plan.

I was raised up North for 25 years. With all that time, I was able to establish lifelong friendships and meet some amazing people in my life. Having moved to a new place, I’ve realized that making friends is not easy; it’s not like childhood, where you can make friendships easily by sharing a cookie together. Maybe it’s because as adults, we’ve been hit by life, and the innocence once held as a child is replaced with caution and wariness. I don’t know. What I do know is that time helps. I’ve been able to maintain my friendships with cherished ones up North and am slowly connecting and establishing new friendships down here. I guess I’m getting the best of both worlds. Huh. That’s a way to look at this journey. The best all around.

After the Boxes Are UnpackedRelocating is probably one of the top most difficult decisions I have ever made. I can now empathize more with those whom have to relocate every so often due to work, military transfers or other reasons. It’s not easy. So, I have to recommend an amazing book that was sent to me by a beautiful angel. If you’re in a season where you will be relocating or have done so already, please check out this book. It was a great help for me to grieve what I left behind, but also to keep in mind to move forward and not get stuck.

 

Amy Velazquez
relentlesssurrender@gmail.com
13 Comments
  • Damaris C
    Posted at 16:42h, 26 April Reply

    That is so true about not getting stuck.. God is all about moving forward and leaving the past behind.. Yet it is difficult indeed. May the Lord continue to shine light unto your new journey.

  • Ashley Soto
    Posted at 09:20h, 01 May Reply

    Giving ourselves permission to grieve is empowering, accepting the changes. There’s nothing wrong with it. Sometimes we associate “grieving” with the death of a loved one, but it also comes with loss in general and thank you for sharing that you’re moving forward and trying not to get stuck. That was deep. Keep going. Because more beautiful moments are coming your way!
    Psalm 121 comes to mind.

    • Amy
      Posted at 12:17h, 01 May Reply

      Definitely! Relocation is one of the top 10 traumas. Therefore, individuals experiencing certain emotions should take a needed pause to examine and accept those feelings as part of the process. It can be a difficult experience, but God’s peace truly surpasses our understanding.

  • Kamie Berry
    Posted at 12:04h, 04 May Reply

    I can relate to this as I recently made two moves. One from Texas to Scotland. Then, one year later we moved to Florida. The emotions were more overwhelming than I thought they would be. Sometimes, shortly after moving, I too would wake up and not know where I was. Thank you for sharing your insight.

    • Amy
      Posted at 12:59h, 04 May Reply

      Wow. Texas to Scotland must have been quite the change, considering it is another country. As a result of this experience, I learned that relocating was considered a trauma. Due to this, being able to increase one’s self-care was vital to move forward in a healthy manner. Thank you for sharing this with me.

  • Hope Veiga
    Posted at 12:20h, 04 May Reply

    We have moved to five different states in our fifteen years of marriage. I completely understand how you feel. I have found that when we move out of obedience, even when we do so kicking and screaming, God’s biggest blessings await in that place. I have also found that there is nothing better than the closeness that comes between my husband, son, and me when we move and have no one else around. It has definitely strengthened our marriage and made our son extremely resilient and flexible. I wish you the best in your new place and I know God will bless you abundantly for being obedient!

    • Amy
      Posted at 13:02h, 04 May Reply

      Hope,

      I concur with that closeness you talk about. Even though I moved to a state with family members living approximately 1 hour away from us, the family members in our household became much closer and my marriage was strengthened in a way I would not have expected with this experience. Thank you for your comment and blessings!

  • Vy La
    Posted at 12:31h, 04 May Reply

    I love that verse! It’s hard to get out of our comfort zone. You are brave in your obedience to God’s will. I hope you are finding that His will is good as he blesses you with new friendships and experiences.

    • Amy
      Posted at 13:04h, 04 May Reply

      Vy,

      I think being able to depend on God’s strength and perfect knowledge is what helped me move forward with this experience. And yes, His will is “good”. It’s funny how we are able to see a bit more clearly when we are obedient to His promptings. I didn’t understand His reasons, then. I do a little more, now. Thank you for your comment!

  • Nicole Cruze
    Posted at 14:42h, 04 May Reply

    Relocating is hard, especially when you’ve built so many memories in one place with your husband. Finding strength in God is our hope!

    • Amy
      Posted at 14:50h, 04 May Reply

      Oh yes! Without God, it would definitely be so much harder. It’s so wonderful to know that He is with us through all of life’s journeys!

  • Audrey Roberts
    Posted at 20:02h, 05 May Reply

    Beautifully written. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Following God at all costs, can be painful and stretch us. In my walk with Him during difficult seasons I relied heavily upon Romans 8;28. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. I might not always understand the why, but I know that He always knows what is best for me. I have been called to do things out of obedience that were very painful. Once we make the choice to be obedient, God will help bring our hearts into alignment with His will. Praying for peace for you, my sweet sister in Christ, and the new home God has called you to.

    • Amy
      Posted at 08:35h, 08 May Reply

      Audrey,

      Thank you for your sweet words! Following God may not be easy, but it is well worth it!

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