17 Apr Vicariously
Having been gluten free for awhile now, it is so much easier to be around others eating favorite foods that I used to eat once upon a time. Because I’m on the allergy side of all of this, I really don’t know how those without allergies feel when they’re around individuals with food allergies. Within my family, I’ve found much support and wonderful effort in attempting to include safe foods for me and my son. I’ve also heard horror stories from others regarding their families, unfortunately. I’m curious, though. What are the reactions and thoughts of those with no allergies? Do they feel guilty for eating something we can’t? Do some think it’s not really a big deal? Do others overreact? I don’t know.
In the beginning, my husband was one who felt guilty for eating something I could not eat. I think he felt horrible if he enjoyed his food because I couldn’t share the experience with him. For me, I love seeing him eat and enjoy his food. Correct me if I’m wrong…I believe food should be enjoyable. Yes, we should make the right choices in what we put in our bodies for nourishment and health, but I really do not think eating food is only a chore or duty to fulfill. God created so many various foods for us. I can imagine that He wants us to enjoy it, as well.
While I cannot enjoy certain foods I once was able to, I certainly enjoy it vicariously through others. Maybe this seems weird. Well…I am weird. But, I truly enjoy seeing the delight on my daughter’s face when she is going to have a favorite slice of pizza. I love seeing my husband fill his craving of a taco or juicy burger. The expression on their faces is priceless. I enjoy watching them enjoy their experiences. I guess this also goes for other areas, not just food. So, I’m not able to share in the same food experiences. It’s ok. I get to live it through them. My GF pizza may not taste exactly like theirs, but I’ve adjusted. And I can enjoy this moment with them. Isn’t that what counts, anyway? It’s the moment, not the food. When all things are said and done, I’m not going to remember every single thing I ate. But, I’ll definitely remember the individuals surrounding me while creating precious memories.