01 Jun What’s On Your Plate?
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
Galatians 6:9 NIV
This morning, my wife asked if I was writing my blog today. “I guess” I responded. It seemed I was getting weary of constantly putting out content and designing every week for the blog. It’s only been a month. Was I giving up already? I committed to something that I am passionate about; however, I realized that I was getting close to burning out. I tried to excuse myself by presenting the fact that I have to work on other projects which ultimately provide for our family. Amy shared some words with me…some might call it nagging, but it is far from that. She was holding up a mirror. All she was doing was showing me what’s on my plate.
I was doing it to myself again, and I am pretty sure it won’t be the last time. But, the difference here is that I am more aware of it than before. I was biting off more than I could chew. How many of us do this? We say “yes” because of passion to later realize that it’s just too much. Nobody was making me anxious, but myself. If I am getting stressed out, it is because I am doing it to myself. My pastor often says, “If the devil can’t make you bad, he’ll make you busy.” That’s what was happening to me.
I tend to eat with my eyes. At some parties and buffets I used to go a little overboard. Amy would look at my plate and say “You did it again. You’re eating with your eyes.” I would shrug her off and eat what was on my plate to later regret it. When we go to a buffet, we don’t come back to the table with a salad most of the time. We get the ribs, burgers, fries, mac and cheese, mashed potatoes, bread and every sauce on top. For my Latino friends, it’s all about the arroz con gandules, pernil, relleno de papa and pastelillos, with mofongo on the side. We will fill that plate until it is no longer visible and we don’t stop there. We have to get the cake, ice cream and flan afterward. The analogy of putting “too much on your plate” is pretty accurate. If I filled a plate with food beyond my stomach’s capacity…well, you get the picture.
One thing I’ve noticed is that I rarely realize what is on my plate. It’s usually my wife or someone else who has to show me. In my perspective, it all looks fine. It all seems that I can handle it. But to someone else, it looks like it is way too much. One thing I am learning is to pause and pull back. Making better decisions and pulling some things off my plate is the healthy thing to do. It leaves some room for extras and I won’t feel as groggy later.
Even though I was definitely frustrated in the moment of my conversation with Amy, I stopped to realize she was just showing me that I have a little more on my plate than I need to have. I am learning to love these “life lesson” moments. As for writing every week? I will keep doing it. Consistency in this area is good. And I will not be weary in doing good. I just have to pull some of the other stuff off my plate and make some healthier choices. What’s on your plate?